Do I know what I want in life? Absolutely not
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Why was I today years old when I learned that lead compounds taste SWEET and THAT’S why kids eating paint chips back in the day was a concern?
people these days, it’s always “stop eating lead” and “lead is poisonous” and never “was the lead yummy?” or “you looked really cool eating those tasty lead chips” smh
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butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway:
Not to go “if you have ADHD just go for a run” or anything, but I am so serious if you have ADHD you should regularly go outside, no headphones no phone no nothing and just stand and observe for a while until you’ve had enough. Not until you get bored, until you’ve had enough. Drink your coffee without watching tiktok. Have a bath without music. Turn down the volume in your headphones. I cannot overstate how much learning to be bored is cruicial with ADHD. Life is not just about pleasure, no matter what your dysregulated dopamine system thinks, and when you teach your brain to be okay with being bored, then boring tasks stop feeling like torture. By letting yourself be bored you are yoinking your system out of the high/low binary and allow for the highs to feel like actual highs and not just anything that isn’t low. I am so serious go literally touch grass. Listen to the sounds in your flat. Stimulate your body the way it was designed. It lowers anxiety and makes you feel like you’re real and best of all it’s completely free
I really wish more ADHD mental health care told you WHY things like this matter to our quality of life.
The Hyperactivity in Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is NOT about being physically hyperactive, it’s about having a “hyperactive central nervous system” because it’s a form of inheritable dysautonomia. The problem with disautonomia, especially the ADHD kind, is that it makes boredom flag to your nervous system as a THREAT, triggering hyperactive and maladaptive central nervous system processes like fight or flight.
But dysautonomia kills you that way. Literally, part of the reason our average life spand increase on stimulents is that it helps manage risk-taking impulsivity that can get us killed by accident, but the other part is that stimulents can regulate a hyperactive CNS such that it is functionally (while impacted by the stimulent) NOT dysregulated anymore. And PHYSIOLOGICALLY that is essential because the physical outcomes of dysautonomia can reduce your life span by YEARS if not decades through self-perpetuating hypervigelence, endocrine disruption, and adrenal fatigue.
So when the ADHD brain goes stimulation-seeking and a doctor tells you to practice mindfulness, it feels like being told “hey go stand in a functioning boiler until you can stop thinking” rather than WHAT IT IS which is the process of re-teaching your body what is and isn’t safe.
Standing outside making mindful, non-interpretive/moralized observation of the world helps your brain and body re-acclimate to the idea that absence of that frantic “busy” feeling isn’t a threat or a risk to your safety, and gradually reduces the level of distress that just hanging out somewhere triggers for you.
Learning WHY this stuff was being suggested and understanding what it was actually supposed to do went a long way towards changing my relationship with my ADHD. I am FAR more functional now, far less prone to shame spirals and rejection sensitivity, hell, I can **sit physically still for near on an hour at a time** now without feeling like I’m going to crawl out of my skin.
So yeah. Go outside. Let the world narrow around you and take deep breaths until it stops feeling claustrophobic or like you need to climb walls. Learn how to let little sensations become big ones like the way the heat of the sun on your skin starts as a gentle warming and be omes a unique collection of sensory moments depending on how it lands on you. Listen for sounds under sounds and let them fade in and out as you move your focus from one sound to the next. Enjoy. Move on. Rinse and repeat.
When you no longer feel like the world is actively killing you, it’s a lot easier to navigate it.
S++ tier addition to the post, thank you tumblr user butts bouncing on the beltway
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I’ve seen so many “who is Jacksepticeye and why is he on tumblr” and “Jack has a tumblr” posts that I think you should qualify for a senior discount if you remember when he was originally on tumblr
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Reminder that the label NSFW (or versions like nsft) is not a moral judgment. “Not safe for work” literally means “if your boss glanced over and saw this on your phone or computer screen, you could get penalized or fired.” That’s why nudity is labeled as NSFW because even if nude bodies aren’t inherently sexual, your boss probably still wouldn’t be thrilled to see naked people on your screen.
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Bad news: your kid is the neighborhood cryptid.
Good news: you can get that on a bumper sticker
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#1 rule of freelancing is that you have to be dead fuckin serious about getting paid. do not assume everything is going fine and they will pay you eventually. follow up as many times as you have to until the money is in your bank account. if you catch yourself thinking, “oh, i don’t want to bother them…” kill that thought and b o t h e r them. send uber-polite, grandma-is-watching e-mails along the lines of, “Hi! Hope this note finds you well. Just wanted to check in re: the status of my payment. Do you know when the funds will be available?” every few days until you get your money.
also if you’re freelancing for a client based in new york city they’re legally required to pay you within thirty days of receiving your invoice so put a note on your invoice that says, “Per the Freelance Isn’t Free Act, payment is due within thirty days of completion.” if they go over that deadline or they just don’t pay you at all, you can file a complaint with the city’s department of consumer affairs and have your lost wages recovered. go w/ christ brah.
Also in general, if you’re like… legit freelancing and drawing up a contract, familiarize yourself with a “Net 30″ or “Net 15″ clause and agree on what the timeframe for payment is before you’ve even started the work. It’s awesome that NYC has legislation about that, but you can definitely hold your client accountable to pay you regardless of where you live!
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repeat after me:
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
tumblr is the reblog website
this is not instagram or whatever other like-based social medium, likes don’t matter that much, your experience is not shaped by an all-knowing algorithm, but by you and reblogging is the lifeblood of this godforsaken corner of the internet
if you love tumblr and if you want to show your appreciation for the creators of the content here, you reblog
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